I admit it. I have my moments. While most of my clothes come from Now he’s teasing me, but it never works because I turn to him, lift an Your childhood won’t be like that. The fact that I will be able to See, the insult/implication of bougie is that you have lost the At Christmas, my grandmother made oranges seem like a magical gift. I I went to some fancy schools too. Not because we had money. Because my I’m trying to give you things that make you spring off of what your I have some ideas for your teenage years. You will have an allowance
thrift stores, I also have shoes that cost more than my car note. I
have a purse that sashays reeeeal close to the house note. You flew
first class before you were six months old. And yes, one of my
girlfriends bought you a pair of Gucci sneakers. I’m sure you’ll hear
your father call me “Bougie-la-la-la” at some point or another.
“Bougie” kinda means well to do, with a taste for the finer things in
life. I have no idea what the la-la-la part means. You’ll have to ask
eyebrow and say, “I sho is. I’ve been poor and now I do pretty well.
I like this MUCH better.” I used to have to eat those big blocks of
bland American cheese. I prefer cheddar cheese. I still have a well
preserved doll that I got at charity Christmas party. I really liked
that doll and I was happy to get her. I was thankful for all the
things I got – even the games that were missing pieces and
instructions. I’ve eaten spaghetti with no sauce for dinner.
afford a French immersion daycare is a joy far greater than the
Bugaboo stroller I ride you around in. You will have swimming lessons.
Montessori. Drum lessons. Golf lessons. Mama gets excited just
thinking about the fancy things I’m going to able to do for you. But
I’m not sure how I’m going to give you the gifts that you can only get
from struggle. The ability to not let the everyday drown you. What if
there’s no tiger nipping at your heels and threatening you with a big
block of American cheese and a book of food stamps? Will you get that
drive? Or will you grow up bougie?
ability to live without your fancy things. That you’ve grown soft and
lost your survival skills. I can laugh when your dad teases me,
because we both know that’s not true. I come from a line of women that
know how to make something out of nothing. That was a great part of my
remember being excited to see the the lump of them in my stocking.
They were vibrant and polished and selected just for me. I know.
You’re like, oranges? Dude, I got other presents. But the oranges were
special because she made them special. She made you see the magic and
the gift in the plain old everyday and that became enough to sustain
you while you were reaching for more.
mama had hustle. And that hustle is going to get you into charter
schools that tell me to step to the back of the wait list, no matter
how much money I have.
father and I have done, into greater heights. I don’t want you to
snuggle down into the comfortable boredom of the privileged. If I give
you everything, you will become lazy, weak-minded, selfish, shallow
and weak. Please consult MTV’s show called “Sweet 16” for reference.
It’s not pretty.
AND you will have a job. And you will pay for some of your car. That
car will not be a BMW. Not even if mommy hits the lotto. I have ideas
for the next few years. I’m going to be sure that your eyes and heart
are open to the less fortunate. And that you offer your hands and mind
to help them. But in the meantime? I’ll start you off with an
appreciation for oranges.
Now he’s teasing me, but it never works because I turn to him, lift an
Your childhood won’t be like that. The fact that I will be able to
See, the insult/implication of bougie is that you have lost the
At Christmas, my grandmother made oranges seem like a magical gift. I
I went to some fancy schools too. Not because we had money. Because my
I’m trying to give you things that make you spring off of what your
I have some ideas for your teenage years. You will have an allowance